Part of my job as a coach, is to explore with my client the things that they really want to do and the changes they want to make. They may have put these things off for many reasons.
They may feel slightly (or very) uncomfortable about pursuing ‘the thing’ or perhaps are unsure about where to start to make it all happen. Maybe they aren’t even aware there is a thing until we start talking and it comes up in a session.
If we are not encouraged to take a look outside of our comfort zones, we may never explore…
One of the easiest ways to feel bad about yourself is to compare yourself or your life, to other people.
It’s such a slippery slope.
You probably know that already. You probably know it’s never a great idea to compare yourself to others.
Yet, it’s easier said than done to stop doing it.
I’m noticing it more and more recently, both in client sessions and in the wider world. It got me wondering why it’s happening on such a scale and I came to the conclusion that it’s got a lot to do with the current situation.
Is it because…
How are you this week - are you finding that life feels harder than last week?
I definitely am and the more people I mention it to, I realise that I am not the only one. It’s like we’ve hit a bit of a wall.
For me, the best way I can describe it is a feeling of mental tiredness. That’s quite unusual for me and I’m quite thrown by it. As we’ve now had months (actually almost a year) living like this it’s really no wonder that our mental resilience sometimes takes a knock.
Like everything that is going…
Some of us are already feeling the usual pre-holiday tension but this year we also have the added ‘coronanxiety’ and we are left feeling confused and a bit unsure of how this year’s festivities are going to pan out.
Many of us are feeling quite conflicted, is it safe for us to join with other households and if we do, will there be a price to pay in January?
Also if we do decide to spend it with others, how can we avoid family arguments when we are making our choices about who to spend it with?
This year is…
This isn’t going to be your typical December blog post. I feel like every year around this time, many coaches (myself included) are already talking about how to survive the Christmas period with your family crowding you and causing arguments.
This year, of course, we won’t be crowded around the same table. And since there has been little else to look forward to, Christmas has kind of started early.
I do really love Christmas, and after this year I think we need as much festive decoration as possible. …
For most people, our jobs are not just how we pay the bills. Our careers are what we have aspired to and worked hard to have. They are where we get a huge chunk of our sense of purpose and identity from. In short, the work we do matters to us.
As the saying goes, “Change is the only constant in life.”
And right now there is a lot of change in the air, particularly where careers are concerned.
Whether by choice or circumstances beyond our control, there’s no doubt that many of us may be looking at some kind…
Of course, this is a metaphor for life in general. I haven’t had a sudden career change and become an outdoor survival guide. Although there is a funny story that’s sort of linked.
When I told a friend that I was training to be a life coach, he said ‘you must be a strong swimmer.’
It took me a few seconds to realise that he thought I’d said life guard. The irony is that I can’t actually swim at all… but that’s a whole other story for another day.
Back to the real topic and what I have seen and…
During tough times we all tend to be harder on ourselves. It’s an interesting piece of human psychology, the reasons why we do this.
Of course, there are many factors and the combination of them is as individual to each of us as our fingerprints. But some of the most common contributing factors that come top of the list for all of us are things like the messages we learned growing up, and the programming we all get from society.
As kids, we all had a harsh family member or school teacher who asked us, “Who do you think you…
Okay, so we’ve had the latest announcement in England and I’m very aware that as we head towards another lockdown, you may be feeling a sense of overwhelm, you may be feeling frustrated and you may be feeling out of control. Or perhaps all of the above.
Humans are creatures of habit and our brains thrive on structure. When we suddenly have more downtime it can leave us feeling lost. It’s ironic because when we are always busy we crave time to do nothing but think…then we find ourselves alone with our thoughts and it’s not all fun and games.
It’s been a beautiful Autumn day today and I have been walking in Battersea Park surrounded by the colourful trees and leaves.
I’m now back home writing this post and I’m reminded that as the clocks went back last night, it’s going to be dark in about an hour and that can only mean that we are heading towards Winter and its darker days.
If you suffer from seasonal affective disorder, or if you just notice you are feeling a little less buoyant through the darker days, then now is a great time to get a strategy in place for…